When my wife and I decided that we were going to salvage our marriage after splitting up for roughly three months, we came up with a plan on how we were going to accomplish this. See, she had moved in with her parents when she left and after about a month and a half, I moved in with a friend because I couldn’t afford our place alone.
Upon deciding that we would stay together we decided that she would stay with her parents and I would move in with my dad so we could both live rent-free and pay off all of our debt before we moved back into our own place again.
Little did we know that life had other plans.
My wife has recently been diagnosed with Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). This, coupled with being diagnosed with endometriosis when she was a teenager, prompted her doctor to suggest a hysterectomy.
No problem, right? She’ll take a leave of absence and use her short-term disability for income while she recovers.
FMLA only covers workers who have been on the job for a year. My wife has only been at her current job since April. So they decided that instead of letting her have two unpaid weeks off of work that they would instead fire her. Although, they aren’t “firing” her. They consider her to be resigning since they told her she couldn’t have the time off. So since she’s chosen her health over her job, she’s also chosen to resign in their eyes. Nice.
It’s bullshit if you ask me, but apparently her employer has the legal right to do this. It’s a really nice way to show appreciation for an employee they had, just as of two months ago, given a stellar evaluation, isn’t it?
So that is awesome.
Then, I find out that my dad and his wife are having marital troubles. The night of Thanksgiving. As bad as a feel for my dad that he and his wife are having difficulties, I can’t help but wonder: is this because I’m living there? What happens if they split? Do I have a place to live? Will I be subjected to loud and bitter arguments? Will my children and I be in a home filled with hostility?
The shitty part is that the only place I have to go right now is my in-law’s place. Because of my wife losing her job, I can’t afford to get even a cheap apartment because of joint bills that need to be paid. We are working over her parents, but they don’t want my children and I there. I get it. They’ve got their own place and life and don’t want us intruding on it, but if they don’t help I might be up a creek without a paddle. Due to the economy and the scarcity of jobs, no one else in my family is in a position to help me.
So I’m at a loss right now of how to plan my future. I’ve never faced such uncertainty. I’m sure we’ll get through it but how we will mystifies me.
I haven’t the slightest clue how to proceed.