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Twindaddy: Pottymouth

Last week I read an extremely provocative piece on the Daily Post regarding swearing, or not, on your blog. I know swearing is something that many people feel very passionately about. Some people can’t abide swearing. They feel it’s disrespectful and gauche. Others swear as a way to combat censorship. Swear words, to them, are just words. And words hurt no one. Some people just like to swear and don’t give a fuck. I think everyone’s view of swearing depends greatly on how they were raised.

In real life (yes, there’s a world outside of the blogosphere, people) I swear like each foul word uttered adds time to my life. I wasn’t raised by parents who swear frequently, but in my formative years I had a plethora of friends who did. Swearing has been part of my everyday vocabulary since I was at least 12 years old. As a youngster, I swore because, hey, that’s what the cool kids did. As I grew older swearing lost its shock value, but I continued doing so because it was now habitual.

One of the few things that stuck with me from my senior English class was the importance of writer’s voice. My senior English teacher (Major Hurt, United States Army) imbued me with the knowledge that it is a writer’s voice, not his words, that captures his readers. Words are just that. Words. A good writer gives life to those words with his own unique voice. A good writer can make words dance with the right voice. Armed with those teachings, I struggled with swearing when I first launched this here weblog. I wanted to be as authentic as I could possibly be without turning off potential followers with my profanity-laced vocabulary.

I once wrote a post pondering the stigma attached to swearing. I noted that almost every swear word had a synonym that was acceptable to say in polite society. It didn’t make sense then and I still feel the same way now. To me, it’s nonsensical that it’s kosher to say “crap,” but not “shit.”

I eventually came across a handful of successful blogs in which the authors swore. At that point I threw caution to the wind and let go of my reservations about swearing on my blog. I now swear on my blog when the feeling strikes me, and I do so without worry. Sometimes I feel like it. Other times I don’t. If someone doesn’t like it, they’ll simply not read. After all, swear words are still just words. They will be interpreted differently by just about every person who reads them. Some will find them offensive. Some won’t. Some people will find offense in a post written without swear words. I don’t intend to offend, but everyone has their own unique point of view.

What got to me, and the reason I’m writing this post, is that a commenter on that Daily Post, um, post asserted his opinion that people only swear because they lack creativity. I was indignant upon reading his words and I wrote a contradictory response stating I don’t lack creativity simply because I like to swear. That person never responded.

Swearing is a matter of preference. Just as many educated people swear as do uneducated people. Just as many creative people swear as do uncreative people. Just because I swear does not mean I’m a horrible or stupid person. It does not mean I lack creativity because I like to drop f-bombs like a bird likes to shit on a clean car. I’m not some lowlife vagrant simply because the word “fuck” flies out of my mouth with reckless abandon multiple times per day. I am not among the dregs of society because I have pet names for my closest friends that include the words twat and douche. You may not like swearing, and that’s your prerogative and right, but you have no grounds on which to judge me because I do. We will simply agree to disagree. I certainly don’t think people who don’t swear are beneath me because they have a colorless vocabulary.

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127 thoughts on “Twindaddy: Pottymouth

  1. I wondered if you, in particular, had seen that post. : )

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    Posted by Pocahontas | November 1, 2013, 9:38 am
  2. Fuckin’ A!

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    Posted by evilsquirrel13 | November 1, 2013, 9:42 am
  3. I don’t swear, personally, but I understand the necessity of these words in certain occasions.

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    Posted by List of X | November 1, 2013, 10:01 am
  4. I’ve heard that comment a lot from people who don’t swear, and I disagree wholeheartedly. In my opinion, it is not about a lack of creativity or not having a full arsenal of other perfectly acceptable SAT vocabulary words. Profanity can emphasize a point like nothing else–it is also hilarious when done correctly. If I feel passionately about something, there is a good chance my expression of it will contain the word fuck.
    You just have to know your audience I suppose and walk a line between turning off potential readers and not giving two shits what anyone else thinks about how you choose to express yourself.
    If someone is offended by swearing, they don’t have to read my blog, and they should definitely never get in a moving vehicle with me.

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    Posted by RFL | November 1, 2013, 10:02 am
    • Ha! I’ve learned to control my profane road rage since the twins were born. Sometimes I still let one fly, but Baby C is getting to the age where he’s going to start repeating what he hears so I really have to pay attention to myself now.

      I swear as a matter of habit. Swearing, if done appropriately, can definitely be used to maximize the impact of a point, but if used to often it loses shock value.

      Still, swearing is part of my voice and I often try to write just as I talk. And I am not devoid of creative ideas simply because I swear like it cures cancer.

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      Posted by Twindaddy | November 1, 2013, 10:17 am
    • I agree with RFL. When my inner trucker comes out, it is generally because I’m feeling passionate about something. Now, how’s about some more fuckin’ chili?

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      Posted by Pocahontas | November 1, 2013, 11:45 am
  5. Great Fucking post!

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    Posted by overitblogdotcom | November 1, 2013, 10:17 am
    • I fucking agree! Thanks!

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      Posted by Twindaddy | November 1, 2013, 10:20 am
      • I’d also like to put out there, that these people are the one’s that believe that there teenage children don’t swear outside of the house.
        And we alllll know that bull crap (see I chose to use the word crap instead of shit, because I can).

        I know that my 2 teen girls swear like some of the best truck drivers out there.
        But, I also know that my girls also know when it is and is not the appropriate time to use that language.

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        Posted by overitblogdotcom | November 1, 2013, 10:58 am
        • I have no doubt that the twins swear. One of them let one fly one day while I was kicking his ass on the Xbox. I wanted to laugh, but I had to punish him instead, because he’s not “old enough” to say a word that has a perfectly acceptable synonym.

          I don’t understand society at all.

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          Posted by Twindaddy | November 1, 2013, 11:32 am
          • I informed my kids that they were going to get hit hard with the fowl language around the 3rd grade. My advise . . . be wise and use your best judgment, my wee ones. Not sure bout y’all, but when we hit the blacktop in grammar school, all hell broke loose.

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            Posted by Pocahontas | November 1, 2013, 11:54 am
  6. Excellent piece. Thanks for addressing the points in that Daily Post.

    Words are wonderful. Curse words are the best… or some instances, the worst, depending how one views them or utilizes them. For myself only, I love using curse words and alliteration.

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    Posted by Anonymous | November 1, 2013, 10:27 am
  7. Here Here! My favorite all time Ecard:

    I do not spew profanities. I enunciate them clearly, like a fucking lady. :)

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    Posted by ardenrr | November 1, 2013, 10:41 am
  8. I had a couple of go rounds with the folks running the A to Z Challenge this year because one of my blogger friends was told she had to reclassify her blog from humor to adult content or she’d be removed from the blog hop. Because she cursed a few times in a few posts and some old bitty complained. My issue was more that if they’re going to have the categories, they should have clearer definitions of what that meant, because to me seeing adult content as a category means that the person writing is discussing sex, or porn, or posting pictures of boobies or carnage, not that they’re occasionally saying fuck or shit. The blog hog organizer tried to argue with me that cursing wasn’t necessary to get your point across. Fine, whatever. I disagree, but I don’t think the issue was the cursing itself as much as how to let people know you do it without totally sinking your ability to participate in the hop.
    In all reality, if your sensibilities are so delicate that an eff bomb offends you? You probably shouldn’t be on the internet.

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    Posted by Nagzilla | November 1, 2013, 10:47 am
  9. The ex-husband had been in the Navy and he would get on me about how much I curse. So yes, I apparently fuckin’ curse more than a sailor, but only when I think it is necessary and not just for the fuckin’ hell of it.

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    Posted by NotAPunkRocker | November 1, 2013, 10:52 am
  10. It pisses me off when people suggest swearing is reserved for uneducated people who can’t use a thesaurus or come up with a better word to provide emphasis. I grew up with a mom who swore often, but never used the “f” word. I was allowed to swear, but until I was older I never dropped f-bombs around her, because I didn’t want to push my luck.

    I swear probably as often in my writing as much as I do when I speak. I don’t need to cuss to get my point across, but I think those words serve a purpose to provide emphasis or add a little unexpected humor. In no way do I think someone’s decision to curse has any bearing on how refined they are or how extensive their vocabulary is. To use a scientific term, that’s what I’d call bullshit.

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    Posted by Katie | November 1, 2013, 11:43 am
  11. Someone once told me that same “for the uneducated” line. I said, “I completely agree with you, so when you hear me fucking swearing, dickwad, it means I’m trying to fucking communicate DOWN to YOUR fucking level.”

    Monet had oil paints. I have fucking swear words.

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    Posted by BrainRants | November 1, 2013, 12:05 pm
  12. Didn’t I just do a comment on your post yesterday about this very thing…??? Are you using me as your creative muse? And if so… shut the fuck up and write something with me… it can have sear words, if you really insist…

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    Posted by pouringmyartout | November 1, 2013, 12:38 pm
  13. Swearing doesn’t bother me, yet I censor myself on my blog. I’m not sure why. It’s kind of funny, I watch my language around my daughter, and I think as a result, I’m much more profane when I’m out with friends away from her.

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    Posted by The Cutter | November 1, 2013, 2:09 pm
  14. Just use your words, TD. If they happen to have 4 letters, so be it.

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    Posted by Elyse | November 1, 2013, 3:19 pm
  15. I mean, my gosh– it’s a blog, not some syndicated column. It’s where you say whatever you want and people choose if they want to read. Too much overthinking by those who worry whether it’s a choice they have to make.

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    Posted by Aussa Lorens | November 1, 2013, 4:13 pm
  16. Fuck yeah!
    aka
    Right on! ;-)

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    Posted by djmatticus | November 1, 2013, 4:25 pm
  17. I loved the last sentence. Even though I’d be one with a colorless writing vocabulary. :D It perfectly captures the ridiculousness of the initial statement. If creative people don’t swear, someone needs to go to every art gallery and musical performance in the world and let the artists know… cuz apparently they’re doing it wrong. Great post! :)

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    Posted by rarasaur | November 1, 2013, 5:56 pm
  18. People who swear lack creativity? That statement makes me want to write a fucking poem on the subject.

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    Posted by C.K. Hope | November 2, 2013, 1:05 am
  19. I think about this everyday.

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    Posted by outlawmama | November 2, 2013, 7:41 am
  20. This post fucking rocks. I concur, like a fucking doctor, with every word.

    I say my IQ must be negative infinity if profanity usage contributes. Now I have to believe I’m just fucking dumb *wink*.

    Profanity does also depend on the situation and audience. I’m not going to use it in the company of certain people even though I oh so fucking want to.

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    Posted by 1jaded1 | November 2, 2013, 9:02 am
  21. Meh. Words are words, it’s what people make of them that matters. And the way they say ‘em, but that’s something else entirely.
    If the guy’s throwing out cuss words, does he also throw out crass ones?

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    Posted by bardictale | November 2, 2013, 5:57 pm
  22. Mmm paprika.

    You know how I feel about swearing! ;)

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    Posted by vyvacious | November 10, 2013, 5:03 pm
  23. I swear in my head a lot. I tend not to verbalise it simply because I’m usually with a bunch of nuns or in my habit and therefore it’s inappropriate. Although I have been known to swear while in habit, just not in a public place and not in front of anyone who would be shocked and/or offended by it.

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    Posted by faithhopechocolate | November 13, 2013, 4:55 am

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