Jealousy is an ugly thing. It makes people do ugly things. It can cloak even the most gorgeous person in hideousness.
Recently a good blogger friend of mine has amassed quite a bit of success on her blog. She’s been Freshly Pressed multiple times. She’s won yearly awards from the likes of BlogHer and The Indie Chicks. She runs a WordPress Recommended blog. She’s a fabulous writer and an even better person. She can always be counted on to shine a positive light on even the darkest situation. She’s hilarious, kind, and happy.
Despite all of the success, all of the accolades, she has remained grounded. Her head has not swelled. She remains accessible to her readers. She still makes it around to read the blogs of those who follow her. Mostly. She still offers support and encouragement to those who need it. In short, she remains a loyal and great bloggy friend even though her blog has gone viral.
I am referring, of course, to Rarasaur. Or, as I affectionately refer to her, Rawra.
Lately, Rawra has received quite a negative backlash due to her success. I’m not privy to what a lot of this hate mail says. She only mentions the fact that she receives it and doesn’t really expound upon what they say, as is her way. She is not one for confrontation or to call people out.
I do know that after Rawra’s last Freshly Pressed post, some blogger sent an incredibly derogatory email to her, and published an inflammatory post, Per Rawra, the post and subsequent email can be summed up thusly:
She wrote a post about the bureaucracy of it all (being Freshly Pressed), and sent an email informing me that my blog successes were because I flaunted my body, lived a shallow life, lied, and bribed. She said I had no friends. Not really. I simply had people who wanted to ride the coattails of my manipulative search engine optimization. She wished me a lonely life and went along her way.
Wow. Just wow. What the fuck?
This is ridiculous. Rawra only recently started showing pictures of herself on her blog, and none of them are revealing pictures. She certainly doesn’t live a shallow life; she lives a fulfilling one. She has a job she loves, a husband she adores, and friends who adore her. I know that because I am one of those friends who adore her. She’s also one of the most honest bloggers I know. The notion that she bribed her way into being Freshly Pressed is so ridiculous I can’t even find the proper words to articulate its absurdity.
This is just one example of the hate that has been creeping in behind the scenes of Rawra’s increasingly successful blog. It’s childish, petty, and juvenile. I understand envy. I get it. You want the success that she has. Hell, I want the success she has. Rawra, however, is a more talented writer than I and was gifted with boundless creativity. She can pump out post after post and almost every one of them is fit to be Freshly Pressed. Do I begrudge her these talents? Absolutely not. I cheer her on. I applaud each accolade she receives. I encourage her. I congratulate her.
To those haters sending her hate mail, leaving hostile comments she has to delete, and/or publishing accusatory posts in regards to her success, I’d first like to tell you this…
Secondly, instead of hating, ridiculing, and resenting Rawra, why don’t you instead attempt to learn from her? I have asked Rawra for her thoughts on my blog in the past. I have asked her what I could be doing better. And she graciously answered. Every single question. She then told me if I have future inquiries to ask again, which I’m going to take her up on soon. You’ve been warned, Rawra.
A fellow blogger buddy of mine has often said, in regards to petty, jealous bloggers, “The internet is big enough for everyone to be successful,” and I wholeheartedly agree. Instead of acting like a maligned 5-year old when a fellow blogger finds success, take that opportunity to notice what that particular blogger is doing and attempt to emulate it. Obviously that blogger is doing something that you’re not. Find out what it is. Most bloggers are genuinely nice people and will tell you what they’re doing to nourish their success. Rawra is one of those bloggers.
So, to sum up this rant, I’m going to finish with a flurry of words my dear Rawra would never, ever utter. Fuck you, haters! Fuck off and leave her the hell alone. She works hard for her success and lobbing hate grenades her way isn’t going to do anything to further the success of your blog. Quit acting like fucking children and act like the adults you resemble. Jealousy is hideous, and that’s what you haters are. Jealous bitches. Grow the fuck up.